All acts of kindness are lights in the war for justice. – Joy Harjo. Poet.
There are great managers and not-so-great managers. Sometimes we get to choose. Sometimes we don’t. And sometimes, we choose the wrong one! Evidenced by, 70% of people who leave their manager, while still loving their work!
So what can you do when you feel you a have ‘difficult’ manager? One who overloads you with work. Sets impossible deadlines. Doesn’t invite and acknowledge new ideas. Micro-manages. Isn’t clear with expectations and fails to provide constructive feedback.
You can choose to revolt or resolve. To confront or to criticise. Once again you get to choose.
You can implement all manner of strategies to ‘get your own back.’ Go slow. Take sick days. Whinge and bitch to others. Turn in lack lustre work. Quit. Sabotage. And so on, without resolve, except perhaps, of being fired!
Irrational, powerless behaviour will never resolve this unhappy, frustrating and career limiting situation you find yourself in.
Chose not from anger, martyred or your victim self but from your heart and seat of compassion. Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. Plato.
How would your highest, kindest self resolve this situation?
Seven steps for a real and kind conversation with a ‘difficult‘ manager…
No doubt this conversation takes courage.
Equally, without it, you or your manager will bring an end to this work and relationship.
Once again you get to choose!
Blame keeps the sad game going, it keeps stealing all your wealth – giving it to an imbecile with no financial skills. Dear one, wise up. The Sad Game – Hafiz.