Finding Life in the Busyness of Work

02nd January 2014

ButterfliesYou’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part or you life, and the only way to truly be satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking, don’t settle.’ Steve Jobs – a life cut short.

This is NOT an article on work-life balance!

It’s about integration, doing more of what you love, at work and in life, guilt free. With ease.

In 2013 I dared to take a month off. Yes! Dared. That’s how heavy and risky it felt.

I spent weeks justifying. Looking to others for validation and permission. Ignoring intuition.Tussling between three weeks, or four, or none at all!

Worrying in to the wee, tumultuous hours…

What would my clients think? What if they went elsewhere in my absence? Could I afford the time? The money? What could I lose in going?

All the while knowing in my heart I was going!

Then I did it! I walked in to the travel agent and booked.

It was done. 28 days to wander freely throughout the UK. To re-connect with family I’d not seen in five years, forty years. See family never met!

How could such a decision be so hard to make?

Why could I not simply have chosen my family and passion for travelling over my work?

Why do you find it hard,  temporarily, even for the weekend, to put aside our work for things we hold so dear? Family. Friends. Love. Health. Spirit…you can add your own.

Perhaps it’s because we…

  • Get lost in our work or over identify with it
  • Fear that if we’re not seen to be working ‘hard’ we’ll not get the raise, the promotion and then…maybe we’ll be fired
  • Do it for the money rather doing what we’re great at and love
  • Become habitual misusers of our work rewarding it with greater significance than it deserves.

I would like to say on my return I re-assessed my working life. I didn’t! In fact I worked harder than ever. Making up for lost time!

My so firmly entrenched, protestant ethic, saw to that! As, did my other outmoded, underlying beliefs and assumptions about self-identity and work.

Six months later I’m so over my…

Pavlovian response to my inbox with its unrelenting, demand for immediate attention.

My on-off, love hate relationship with social media for all the wrong reasons.

An insatiable addiction to Amazon fuelled by not feeling smart enough.

Hard, unfocused work seemingly rewarded by less than great achievement.

And, I’m tired being overwhelmed, not present and anxious.

In 2014 I want something very different for my working life.

Something way more, sustainable, loving, present and powerful.

Something that serves my clients and me better!

Here are my commitments for integrating work and life in 2014

  • I will spend time playing to my strengths, outsourcing my weak spots to people who call them their hot spots
  • I will have one day a week phone, laptop, iPad free – lets call it an Apple free day!
  • I will not work in bed! Yes really. What is there to say?
  • I will continue to serve my clients with love; tending to our collaboration and trusting our relationship.
  • I will master the art of saying ‘yes,’ slowly. I will check in with my values, strengths and my capacity to achieve results before nodding.
  • I will take time off to retreat, relax, study and write without justification or guilt
  • I will be present to what is, working authentically with passion, love and grace.

What are you prepared to commit to for a more integrated life?

For creating your one, amazing, unique and precious life?

The two most significant motivators for change are fear of pain and desire for pleasure. The former is the greater driver!

Ready for the pain? 

Here in Australia, the average 50-year old man has 10,548 days left. That’s life!

The average 50-year old woman fair’s, slightly better with 12,264 days of life left.

Time is ticking. Fast. 

Think about it. It matters. It’s life passing by. Quickly!

What changes are you prepared to commit to integrate your work with your one precious life?

‘Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.’ Confucius.

I would love to hear your thoughts on integrating work and life. Here, on Facebook, LinkedIn or via email kate@loveatworkinc.